I'm not a yeller

I had a patient who avoided seeing me for several months because his diabetes was worse and he was worried about what I would say. "I knew I was going to get yelled at."

So I asked a real straightforward question: "What makes you think I'll yell at you? It's your life. I don't have to live it." I have all kinds of advice and recommendations, but at the end of the day, I only experience maybe an hour of their existence over a year's time. 

I get this a lot from COVID un-vaccinated patients. They think I'm going to berate them. Not really. I am interested in giving them knowledge, and context, and compassion. People make their own decisions, but I want that decision to be well informed. When people tell me, "Well, I hear a lot of things..." then I want to talk about it. I am a doctor. It's literally my job to give you health information individualized and personalized to you.

One of my patients still isn't vaccinated, and he knows everything about why he should, but he is just totally terrified of needles. And he knows he needs to get vaccinated but just can't get over the hurtle. Let's work on this together.